By now, many of you, if not most have heard of the Law of Attraction – and no, I’m not talking about the powerful chemistry drawing you toward that sexy person across the bar from you. More simply, the theory behind the law of attraction is that you create your reality with your thoughts and intentions. The more you focus on positivity, the more likely you will attract good things into your life. On the other hand, if you’re dwelling so much on the negative and what’s wrong with life, chances are you are less receptive to receiving positive opportunities and experiences.
You Attract What You Put Out There
I’ve found that love and the best relationships often come when you least expect it. The Law of Attraction can very easily be applied to the world of dating and relationships, but it’s not necessarily in the way you might think. Like many of you have experienced, I’ve found that love and the best relationships often come when you least expect it. Often in the process of trying so hard to find someone, you wind up forcing a connection that isn’t genuine, or try to mold someone into the fantasy you have of them in your head, or you simply push so hard to make something work when it’s clearly crumbling around you.
One of the best things you can do to create the love life you truly seek and deserve is to first set intentions on becoming your best self. Set clear goals and visions about the kind of life you genuinely wish to be living, the career or atmosphere in your job that you desire, the type of people you want to surround yourself with, and most importantly, discover and hone the character and personality traits to which you most aspire. Go forth with the intention to live your life with integrity, courage, compassion, respect for others and joy. Become the person who will attract the love you desire.
“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”
For many years, I was stuck in a bog of negativity surrounding my love life. Because of my unsteady health, job and living situations and in the wake of a stream of relationship failures as time passed me by, I began to doubt my value as a person of worth. Not surprisingly, I found myself surrounded by people who didn’t fully value me, who had questionable integrity and who were also emotionally stuck in their own ways. As much as I claimed I wanted a better life for myself in all ways, in love especially I was constantly lowering the bar of expectations and actions.
“EVERYTHING in your life you have attracted.”
I claimed to be looking for something with whom I could be completely honest, but I didn’t like what I was hearing and I was uncomfortable or didn’t feel safe to be transparent myself. I was looking for someone with whom I could share great passion and joy, but the scar tissue from the past had built a thick armour of protection around me that often made it hard for someone to reach me, and also made it hard for me fully get out of my head and freely give from the heart without fear.
I didn’t doubt that I was lovable. I just doubted that the right person would see that I was.
It Was Time To Shift My Awareness
In April of 2012, a man made a conscious decision to alter his life in significant ways, both mentally and physically. Literally the day after he did so, he fell across a woman who was already taking the steps to revolutionise her own physical, mental and spiritual growth. She had done her internal work, healed past wounds and dumped her baggage. She had completely changed her direction in life and felt she was finally living the life she was meant to lead, with honesty and integrity to her soul. They recognised a kindred spirit in each other immediately.
I am that woman. We met exactly when we were ready for each other. I have never felt so embraced and electrified by another man before. Best of all, I am free to be me in every way, and I am constantly encouraged on my journey growing closer to the life of my dreams.
1. Proverbs 23:7
2. The Secret