Moving On by @SingleCGirl

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Moving On by @SingleCGirl

I miss him, I am trying to sit here and write a post about when is the right time to introduce a person you are dating to your kids and all I can think about is how much I miss him.

It’s been about a month now since everything once again ended with the guy I was talking about in my first post “Is he/she really an ideal mate”.  All I want to do is send him a message, I can’t tell you how many I have now started and deleted.  I want to tell him I miss him.  I want to kiss him and run my hands through his hair.  I hate feeling like this, I hate feeling broken hearted.

I also feel stupid for letting my self fall for him again and again.  I feel like the saying, “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”, but I think that this is the fourth time now, I feel stupid for letting it happen again.  That is another thing I hate feeling is stupid.  Like why do I keep doing this to my self?!?!

I know it is just a matter of time and I’ll start moving on and start to feel not so shitty.  But at the same time I don’t know if I want to move on.  I care about him deeply.  I want to have hope that maybe just maybe he is missing me, that maybe there is actually more there.  But I know I am being stupid in thinking this.  I need to keep telling my self I need to move on, that there is someone else out there for me, someone even better.

So how do we get over those who mean the world to us??

1. Keep your self busy

2. Every time you think about them tell the thought good-bye (I know this is a little funny, but it does help)

3. Cry when you have too (It never hurts to cry over someone you cared about)

4. Write about your feelings in a personal journal

5. Talk to your friends or someone you can trust (Don’t dis him/her unless they really deserve it because you may regret it in the future)

6. Make peace with it (The more you hold on the harder it is to let go and move on)

I know it is hard, trust me I am dealing with it right now and there are a lot of others dealing with a broken heart too.  But hopefully in the end you will be able to move on to someone better.  I know that is what I am hoping for.

 


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11 Comments

  • Lawrence
    June 24, 2012

    Is it possible to make peace with it until you have cried it out?

    • Lily
      June 24, 2012

      I guess it depends on the person, but I think that most people do have to have a good cry to move on, but writting could help too or talking to some one you can trust.

  • singledatingdiva
    June 24, 2012

    Thank you for sharing Lily. It is so so hard to let go of someone who was special to you, especially if you were holding out hope to a future with them. I know, I’ve been there, but you are in a much better place right now. Just keep telling yourself you deserve to be with a man who wants to be with you! You are worth so much more than he was giving you. Feel better soon (hugs)!

    • Lily
      June 24, 2012

      Thanks!! I have found that even writing this post and all of that has helped me even more to let go and move on. I am finding that I have barely thought about him in the last few days.

  • Pen My Profile
    June 25, 2012

    Sometimes writing it all done can be really cathartic – really glad this helped you Lily, it’s a really brave post. Hugs!

  • Marrie
    June 25, 2012

    Lily, I hope that your heart heals soon and that each day the sun shines a little brighter. Moving-on is tricky…it’s a different process and time-table for each person {it can even be different for each relationship}. You have a healthy strategy for moving-on that will help others as well! Thank you for sharing. Smiles & Hugs.

  • Joanna Rothman
    June 25, 2012

    I agree with Pen My Profile and think you are incredibly brave for putting it out there! Heartbreak is never easy, but trust that we’ve all been there & understand how you feel. hugs!

  • Lily
    June 25, 2012

    I would like to thank all of you for you comments!! I really do not feel all that brave about writing this post. I was just overwhelmed with how much I missed him. I thought that there was nothing else I could write about, nothing else made sense to me. But thank you for all of your support.

  • According to Jewels
    June 25, 2012

    This has inspired me to write something and I want to thank you for sharing your heartache with the world. Whether you believe it is brave or not, it is! It will get better with time, as adults we know this is true, but the heart is stubborn and rarely uses logic. Hugs, doll.

    • Lily
      June 26, 2012

      Thank you Jewels!! Yes the heart can be very stubborn, as much as we do not want it to be. I am trying my hardest to remain positive that I will be willing to move on. But now that I think about him.. I still miss him. It is getting better, but I still miss him.

  • Solo @ 30
    June 28, 2012

    Thank you so much for sharing, I hoped it helped in some way. I know how hard it is to move on when your heart doesn’t feel quite ready. Writing it all down and sharing with those who can relate has always been a good release for me, so you’ve got two covered right here.

    I know it took me FINALLY moving on from the man I gave several chances to before I could finally find and let in the *right* man who could truly value and relish ALL of the wonderful aspects of us. I don’t wish the old love ill at all. I value what we did have. But I also recognize the pieces I filled in that really weren’t there that I tried so hard to make be there. What was a struggle with my relationship with him came so effortlessly with someone else. That was the biggest aha for me.

    Anyway. Big hugs. We’re here for you any time.

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