Condom Carrying Women: Keen Intelligence or Notoriously Slutty? by @DirtyInPublic

condom carrying women

Condom Carrying Women: Keen Intelligence or Notoriously Slutty? by @DirtyInPublic

Condom Carrying Women

As I’ve gotten older, I tend to care less what other people think of me. This isn’t to say that I’m a self serving, greedy wench however; I no longer allow the fear of others’ opinions to influence better judgment. When I jumped back into the dating scene after a nearly 15 year hiatus; I was blessed with ignorance. Sporting new shoes and dress, I loaded-up my new handbag with dating essentials:

Lipstick-check

Powder-check

Keys-check

Wallet with cash, ID-check

Condoms-check

 

Even if I had no intention of getting laid, I wasn’t about to allow the lack of a condom deny me the opportunity should it become an option. Not a full 10 pack, mind you, but a couple discretely tucked in my wallet. I just assumed that this is what every responsible, sexually active adult did. Well, it is apparently…if you’re a man. It wasn’t until I traded in my online dating profile for a relationship when I realised that a chick carrying a condom is thought to be “notorious.” Unbelievable that in 2012, a woman choosing to take control of her health can be considered a bad slut (for the record, I’m a good one).

 

But apparently a condom carrying lady is an issue for some men. I doubt these same men would complain when faced with the chance to get laid. Sir Richard’s were a basic part of my dating kit because one never knows when the prospect of nooky might come-up. Does that make me a ho? To some, maybe, but it’s fascinating that some men take issue, not with the fact I’ll grant them access to my inner sanctum, but that I had the balls to assume sex was a BYOC bash. I wasn’t aware that my only option was to pop a birth control pill and assume the man would handle the rest. My ignorance to the stigma associated with carrying a concealed prophylactic permitted me bliss. Meanwhile, women who are keen to the judgments of others may not be willing to face the scornful choir. Is the new scarlet letter “C”?

 

Condoms Are a Must

Whether a woman is dating 10 men or betting all her romantic cards on one; if she is a sexually active adult, condoms are a must. A man may cry “WHORE” if he spots them but if a man thinks you’re a ho, rather than a self-respecting adult, than he’s immature; not to mention a complete waste of a condom! Just move-on. I encourage all women to put on their big girl panties and be prepared for when you’re ready to let them drop! Bottom-line: Sex is an equal opportunity activity and ladies have the right to step-up and BYOC; no excuses or apologies required.

 

I guess the only thing left to do is get down off my soapbox and invite you men into the conversation. Fellas, what do you think of a woman who carries condoms? Tacky? Promiscuous? Responsible?

 


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13 Comments

  • Jonathan
    June 16, 2012

    A woman who does NOT bring a condom to her own first date is irresponsible and/or has chosen to instate the manipulative sexual denial dynamic from the first date instead of waiting until marriage like a decent girl.

  • Lily
    June 16, 2012

    I carry condoms in my purse and I have them in my night stand too. I think being prepared is always the best way to go.. better to be safe then sorry.

    • Marrie
      June 21, 2012

      Absolutely Lily! Besides what if the guy has had the same condom in his wallet for so long it’s become…unstable! LOL! Bet he’d be thankful for your stash then!

  • singledatingdiva
    June 17, 2012

    Great advice for all women! Every women has to be responsible for her own safety and not rely on the man. If there is the potential for a little casual hanky panky then you should always be ready.

    • Marrie
      June 21, 2012

      Thanks Diva! I also think that the only way that these men’s assumptions about women who carry condom’s will change is by the women they date carrying them!

  • Neely Steinberg
    June 20, 2012

    It just makes sense nowadays to be prepared. Women need to take charge of their sexual health and not leave the responsibility to men. Nice post!
    Neely
    neelysteinberg.com

    • Marrie
      June 21, 2012

      Thanks, Neely!

  • Lisa Jey Davis
    June 20, 2012

    My man didn’t think I was notorious because I had a stash at home. Of course I included them in my marketing collateral for Ms. Cheevious, so I had a HUGE stash. LOL Perhaps that’s what staved off any chance of being dubbed a “bad” slut. LOL But in my man’s case I don’t think there is such a thing as a bad slut. LOL Bottom line – ALWAYS BE PREPARED. Any guy who thinks badly of you for that, will likely find other things wrong with you. Why? Because he’s JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. If he was, he’d be OVER A BARREL that you have condoms for him. LOL

    • Marrie
      June 21, 2012

      Thanks Lisa! I couldn’t agree more! I think the more confident, honest, and into you the man is…the less he would care about who brought the condom!

  • Ms. Cheevious
    June 20, 2012

    Call me a slut then… good or bad, take your pick. Always — ALWAYS take care of YOUR health. FIRST. Period. xo

    • Marrie
      June 21, 2012

      I just look at it this way…if the man I’m dating has a problem with me packing condoms, then his reaction just saved me a lot of time! Because he is obviously NOT the man for me!

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    June 21, 2012
  • According to Jewels
    June 25, 2012

    I’d rather be an STD free SLUT than a clean WHORE! I have no problem keeping condoms in my bedside table and carrying them with me when I’m looking for loving. There is little to nothing worse than taking off the clothes and getting heavy to realize there are no condoms…then getting dressed to go get them and paying out the ass because you had to stop somewhere and buy them individually. I mean…not that that’s happened often to me. 😉 They can think whatever they want of me but I’m going to be safe and I’m going to be prepared. I usually wait to see if they have one before offering mine up and by that point they are just thankful I have it. I’ve never had a guy comment on it other than to say, “Thank you, God!” then ravage me.

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